i don't know where to put this....

[m3racer]

Taking something that has been purchased by the child with money that the child earned, can also be considered "stealing." Be careful. There's a whole bunch of ramifications to be considered.... children are people too. Underage children too.

LOL...I must have been raised in a different time when common sense prevailed.

[m3racer]

What does "whipping" him, teach?

It's called a learned response. If I steal than I will get smacked upside the head. Getting smacked in the head hurts...therefore I will no longer steal. It seems pretty simple to me. It worked for me when I grew up.

[snafu]

Your son is 14 y/o sending hostile text messages and stealing. You need to find out what is driving his negative behavior. What is his social situation at school? Is he part of a peer group? Are they into hostile challenges? How is he doing scholastically? Any change? Have you had any drug testing done?

What is he buying with the money he's stealing? What else is he stealing? Where else is he stealing? Are there any adult male figures in his life that are life models?

I have two older teens and they do stupid, thoughtless things ...but they are getting a teeny bit more mature. What's helped most is PT jobs in restaurantss/fast food lowest guy on the totem pole. Once they realized they didn't want to wash floors or clean grease traps 'for real' their marks and attitude got a whole lot better! They are learning to manage their time too.

[DebbieL]

Hmm, I was just the opposite. All I did with the money I earned from my part time jobs in high school was party. I thought I was rich. $140 in my pocket every second Friday to a fifteen year old in 1985 bought a LOT of beer I couldn't have cared less about school back then (and I had won all the academic awards for being a brain all through elementary). I skipped out constantly in high school and still somehow managed to graduate with honours. My mom and dad didn't know the extent of what I was really up to. Thankfully I grew up and got myself together. The funny thing is I did all that partying and boozing (and recreational drugs) back then - and now I don't even touch the stuff. I don't drink, I jog daily, eat healthy, etc. I'm so BORING now, lol. So, while I'm sure having a part time job is great for many kids, I'd be aware. All my friends that had part time jobs were doing the same thing with their money that I was (and none of our parents were aware how kind of bad we were).

[irmanator]

he doesn't steal huge amts he took $7 from my mom and 30 from his sister. He does have male role models, my uncle does lots with them and my husband and him get along real well. He likes those expensive energy drinks, thats what he spent it on. I told him he is not allowed to have them anymore. He seems to be behaving now. We do go to church and have rules and all that stuff. I think he may have just gotten with some bad kids. I told him he is not allowed to hang out with them anymore. I get home from work approx same time he gets home from school now that i changed my hrs. so he wont be able to do to much now

[nasser]

where to hide

hi,
The best place to hide your things is in a place you know no one will open it try to hide it in a place your sister wouldn't think of.
Thank You

[destiny10]

you sound like you are compensating for not having the boys dad around. give him a whipping but of course make sure you are not caught.