Women keeping their maiden name

[97guns]

I'm not sure how they did it but my girl cousin married a guy and the guy took her last name, they are hippies and I think he wanted an Asian last name

[disneysteve]

I'm not sure how they did it but my girl cousin married a guy and the guy took her last name

What do you mean you don't know how they did it? A guy can change his name just the same way that a girl can.

[97guns]

Never knew it

[Outdoorsygal]

What a confusing mess. Women just change your last name if you truly love the person (otherwise I can see otherwise if it is burdensome to do for other reasons).

If you do not want to "become one" with your spouse, you better not get married. Because balking at your new identity of Mrs. so and so is not a good sign of mental stability.

[disneysteve]

What a confusing mess. Women just change your last name if you truly love the person (otherwise I can see otherwise if it is burdensome to do for other reasons).

If you do not want to "become one" with your spouse, you better not get married. Because balking at your new identity of Mrs. so and so is not a good sign of mental stability.

Wow. Let's just throw society back 50 years.

[Thrif-t]

I had no problem giving up my 11 letter hard to pronounce & spell last name for my DH's easier to pronounce 7 letter name.

[Milly]

I believe both spouses have the option of changing their names when they sign the document. Actually, I think they can change their entire name if they want.

Funny story: My mother was still legally "Baby Girl [Last Name]" when she got married, so she got to name herself. I guess her parents never got around to letting the government know when they decided on a name

[SavingMum]

Wow. Let's just throw society back 50 years.

Oh yes! Then maybe I'd have a chance a buying a house!

[AJ444]

My wife kept her last name, my opinion is a person can do whatever they want with it, I wouldn't have changed had the situation been reversed.

And guess what, 5 years later and it has had zero impact on our lives.

[Joan.of.the.Arch]

I found it time and money saving not to change from my birth name. Nothing easier than to just keep all the same ID, memberships, cards, registrations, deeds, legal documents, licenses, and so on. Don't even have to scratch out "This book belongs to Joan.of.the.Arch."

[msomnipotent]

I had every intention of keeping my maiden name. Then my in-laws bought airline tickets for us with his last name and my husband insisted I change my name because there was "no way" to change the ticket. I'm sure it was a set up on his part. I'm not sure if the in-laws were in on it.

[Joan.of.the.Arch]

Wow, if true, that is very imposingly manipulative.

[Like2Plan]

It is interesting that some folks have all sorts of preconceived notions regarding a person based on a name... I have nothing against those folks who change their name. I just didn't want to.

I kept my birth given name for many of the same reasons that Joan.of.the.Arch listed. The world didn't come to an end. I haven't been burned at the stake (so, far anyway). DH and I have been married for 32 years.

(Side note: I find it amusing that these days many folks have their birth given name listed on facebook. )

[disneysteve]

(Side note: I find it amusing that these days many folks have their birth given name listed on facebook.

That makes sense. If your last name was "Smith" for the first 25 or 30 years of your life, there are a lot of people who know you by that name. If I was searching Facebook for someone I went to high school or college with, I'd be searching by maiden name. My wife has both her maiden name and married name on her profile.

[Like2Plan]

That makes sense. If your last name was "Smith" for the first 25 or 30 years of your life, there are a lot of people who know you by that name. If I was searching Facebook for someone I went to high school or college with, I'd be searching by maiden name. My wife has both her maiden name and married name on her profile.

Of course it makes sense. My point was the person's identity was one name and now another. ( But you have to list all your aliases/AKA names in order to be found. )